A firm in Dallas has created a program to help widows deal with financial planning. They state that the average age of a widow in America is 56 and that offen estate planning was not created to provide for widows as they need. They do a preliminary evaluation and work on restructuring estates to provide the necessary cash flow to last for the remainder of the spouses’ lives. See the above link for more details. They may be able to help or refer you to someone in your area who can provide similar services.